letting go

How to Release Control to Gain Power in Your Life

I’m a self-proclaimed control freak.

There… I said it. It’s not something I’m particularly proud of, but it’s an aspect of my personality that rears its head more often than I’d like to admit.

Let’s be honest: it’s hard to let go. It can feel really easy to try to control and manage everything in our lives – from our work projects and social plans to personal relationships and plans for the future. But the truth is, it’s not our place to control really anything outside of our own experience: our mind, emotions, reactions, behaviors.

This is where we are fully empowered to feel, think, express, and experience the world however we choose to. This is where a disciplined practice comes into play. Because when we lose control over our outside world, it’s really easy to freak out and get upset and just thrash around harder, trying to get back control (ummm, soooooo been there, done that...)

But when we actually just stop, and feel what’s going on for us? Totally different experience.

Do you ever notice that the harder you struggle to control a situation, person, or whatever else…. the more it seems to slip away from you?

This is your opportunity to go within. The external world? Not yours to manage. (Whew! That would be a big job!) But it can feel really crazy-making, right? Because then there’s a TON of uncertainty!

Cue the best opportunity ever for personal and spiritual growth. 🙂

Releasing control is embracing uncertainty.

Embracing uncertainty is scary. And it connects you to your TRUE self – everything that’s there – the pain, the fear, the vulnerability, the deep desires…. all of it.

All of you that wants to be seen, heard, and expressed.

Go there. Let go. Stop trying to change your partner, your annoying colleague, or that plane that’s 2 hours delayed. Quit trying to micro-manage the next 2 years of your life or obsess over that thing that’s just not going the way you want it to in your life.

Instead, look inside and ask yourself WHY you are seeking to control.

What if you let go? What kind of fear comes up?

There is so much SPACE in letting go – it’s a burden totally removed from your shoulders. And when you take the process inside, rather than making it about the external world… you get to know yourself so much better. 🙂

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